I just talk to them and ask them what they want to be. I find my characters very responsive. Often when I'm feeling that they're flat, I find out it's because I'm trying to force them into situations or reactions that aren't really them. I have a scene with A and B at the beach and it seems flat. I just start a conversation with one of them like we're not in the story.
"So, why are you at the beach."
"I don't really know."
"How do you not know? I mean I set it up. She told you she liked walks on the beach and you took her to the beach."
"I know man, but I don't really feel the walks on the beach thing you know. It's so cliche. I'd much rather grab a few buckets of sand and pile it up around my bed, cover it with a big beach blanket, and get an ocean sounds CD and make the beach in my bedroom."
"Sand? In your bedroom? That sounds like a big mess and a pain to clean up."
"Yeah it does. I tend to take an idea and run with though. I mean I think she'd totally respect that beach in the bedroom thing. Seems pretty romantic to me. But, I do need to think of a way to get around that sand thing...it'd probably ruin my vacuum."
My flat scene was flat partially because my character felt it was as cliche as it was. However, instead of embracing cliche as traditional, he likes to be more creative. I also learned that he's a bit more of a doer than a thinker. I expect more cool ideas, but poorly conceptualized out of him. I also like doing it that way because by writing my conversations, I get an idea of how he thinks and communicates. I can hear his voice in my head, and I see him using words like man, and totally, in that way that makes him seem a little suferish.
BQS!!
1) A nook color.
2) I talk to them, and I listen.
3) Somewhere in between. I develop characters first. Plot second. Once I have a strong working outline for a plot, I'll start thinking about a title. It changes a lot though.
4) Yes. I often start with just a character or a scene. Sometimes that scene is the beginning, sometimes the end, more often it's in the middle. If the end comes first though, it comes first and I work back.
5) It depends. I don't try to reverse engineer. Like I said, I see a scene and start from there. I don't think it makes it better or worse, it's just a matter of comfort and where teh story starts speaking to me.